Self-Talk

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Life is like a big swing, dangling between the depths of happiness and sadness. As soon as we descend down the slope of sadness, we accelerate over the ever-feel-good acclivity of happiness. At times of distress, when we are down we slip over an abyss of emotional trauma and frustrations. One who can rise above the occasion, is the architect of many wins over sorrows.

To come above tougher times you have to pep yourself up, when you are feeling low, lost and confused. This can be done effectively by self-talk. Self-talk is a way of talking to oneself. It can be effectively used for soul searching. When talking to ourselves, we hardly lie as our conscience controls our speech. Self talk is efficient because when we are vocal about our thoughts, it makes a larger impact on our mind. Our brain then receives the same message from the mind as well as the ears. This repetition pep talks and thoughts fine tunes the performance of brain.

Self-talk is a software, which when properly loaded onto our mind directs ourselves for better results and a healthy mind. Actually many times in our life, we find others advising us to do better in studies, sports, life etc. We usually get bugged by these people and blank our ears out of their constructive suggestions. It is because it doesn't come from within us. And when something comes from within you, you always try your best to do justice to it. Self-talk can thus ameliorate our status.

Each one of us has some good points and some bad ones. Though we hardly admit in pubic, we know in our mind that we could do better in some areas of our personal landscape. This get better attitude can be converted into a practical reality using self-talk.

If you are an introvert and you want to be the gregarious person like you friend next door, all you need to do is talk to yourself. Tell yourself with all the sincerity and emotions that "I can be like him. I am a natural born speaker. I do like people and speaking comes naturally to me. I just have to be ready to listen and speak". Suppose you love a person and want to tell him or her, then just say to yourselves "I love her with all my heart. She is the only one and I know it. If I don't let her know, it would be grave injustice on my part. Every person loves to be loved. Even she will". These are just some examples I have explained. It's up to you to program your own mantra.

If you are highly optimistic to do better, there is no better motivator than self-talk. So guys start talking.

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The mind of love brings peace, joy, and happiness to ourselves and others. Mindful observation is the element which nourishes the tree of understanding, and compassion and love are the most beautiful flowers on the tree.

When we realize the mind of love, we have to go to the one who has been the object of our mindful observation, so that our mind of love is not just an object of our imagination, but a source of energy which has a real effect in the world.

The meditation on love is not just sitting still and visualizing that our love will spread out into space like waves of sound or light. Sound and light have the ability to penetrate everywhere, and love and compassion can do the same.

But if our love is only a kind of imagination, then it is not likely to have any real effect. It is in the midst of our daily life and in our actual contact with others that we can know whether our mind of love is present and how stable it is. If love is real, it will be evident in our daily life, in the way we relate with people and the world.

The source of love is deep in us, and we can help others realize a lot of happiness. One word, one action, or one thought can reduce another person's suffering and bring him or her joy. One word can give comfort and confidence, destroy doubt, and help someone avoid a mistake, reconcile a conflict, or open the door to liberation. One action can save a person's life or help him or her take advantage of a rare opportunity. One thought can do the same, because thoughts always lead to words and actions.

If love is in our heart, every thought, word, and deed can bring about a miracle. Because understanding is the very foundation of love, words and actions that emerge from our love are always helpful.

LOVE IS SO INCREDIBLY POWERFUL

NEVER GIVE UP ON THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE. LOVE IS SO INCREDIBLY POWERFUL.


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Like any good mother, when Karen found out that another baby was on the way, she did what she could to help her three-year-old son, Michael, prepare for a new sibling. They find out that the new baby is going to be a girl, and day after day, night after night, Michael sings to his sister in Mommy's tummy.
The pregnancy progresses normally for Karen. Then the labor pains come. Every five minutes ... every minute. But Complications arise during delivery. Hours of labor. Would a C-section be required? Finally, Michael's little sister is born. But she is in serious condition. With siren howling in the night, the ambulance rushes the infant to the neonatal intensive care unit at St. Mary's Hospital in Knoxville, Tennessee.
The days inch by. The little girl gets worse. The pediatric specialist tells the parents, "There is very little hope. Be prepared for the worst." Karen and her husband contact a local cemetery about a burial plot. They have fixed up a special room in their home for the new baby — now they plan a funeral.
Michael, keeps begging his parents to let him see his sister, "I want to sing to her," he says. Week two in intensive care. It looks as if a funeral will come before the week is over. Michael keeps nagging about singing to his sister, but kids are never allowed in Intensive Care. But Karen makes up her mind. She will take Michael whether they like it or not.

If he doesn't see his sister now, he may never see her alive. She dresses him in an oversized scrub suit and marches him into ICU. He looks like a walking laundry basket, but the head nurse recognizes him as a child and bellows, "Get that kid out of here now! No children are allowed." The mother rises up strong in Karen, and the usually mild-mannered lady glares steel-eyed into the head nurse's face, her lips a firm line. "He is not leaving until he sings to his sister!" Karen tows Michael to his sister's bedside. He gazes at the tiny infant losing the battle to live. And he begins to sing. In the pure hearted voice of a 3-year-old, Michael sings:

"You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy when skies are gray — "

Instantly the baby girl responds. The pulse rate becomes calm and steady.

Keep on singing, Michael. "You never know, dear, how much I love you. Please don't take my sunshine away — " The ragged, strained breathing becomes as smooth as a kitten's purr.

Keep on singing, Michael. "The other night, dear, as I lay sleeping, I dreamed I held you in my arms..." Michael's little sister relaxes as rest, healing rest, seems to sweep over her.

Keep on singing, Michael. Tears conquer the face of the bossy head nurse. Karen glows. "You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. Please don't, take my sunshine away."

Funeral plans are scrapped. The next, day — the very next day — the little girl is well enough to go home!

The medical staff just called it a miracle. Karen called it a miracle of God's love!

NEVER GIVE UP ON THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE. LOVE IS SO INCREDIBLY POWERFUL.

The splashes of life-- A famous Indian story

The splashes of life

Dear Sir or Madam,

Sorry I don’t know who you are, so I write this words on my blog to you.

Thanks so much for your message where you sent it into my email box and blog. For a lots of thanks, I copy the article to you and myself and I love all the people . Because I still believe where there is great love, there are always miracles. And I have to tell you that you told me the story about HIM, whatever it is true or not, that is really not important to me, cause today and tomorrow is still fantastic to me and everyone include you and others, and that is we need!!!

Give other freedom, then you own the beautiful world.

Best wishes always to you!

                                                                                                                --Zoe

There is a famous Indian story handed down from generation to generation!

My grandfather took me to the fish pond on the farm when I was about seven, and he told me to throw a stone into the water. He told me to watch the circles created by the stone. Then he asked me to think of myself as that stone.

"You may create lots of splashes in your life, but the waves that come from those splashes will disturb the peace of all your fellow creatures," he said.

"Remember that you are responsible for what you put in your circle and that circle will also touch many other circles."

"You will need to live in a way that allows the good that comes from your circle to send the peace of that goodness to others. The splash that comes from anger or jealousy will send those feelings to other circles. You are responsible for both."

That was the first time I realized that each person creates the inner peace or discord that flows out into the world. We cannot create world peace if we are riddled with inner conflict, hatred, doubt, or anger.

We radiate the feelings and thoughts that we hold inside, whether we speak them or not. Whatever is splashing around inside of us is spilling out into the world, creating beauty or discord with all other circles of life.                                                                                

Waiting only make life sweeter-1

Love gets beautified with miss
                                by Xiao Qi Lai

I had thought to love someone

Can be done speechlessly

Without the consciousness of him

I took an oath

To cherish this beauteous affection

Into my memory, merely my memory



If I did not think of the possibility of losing you

Losing the love that weighs so heavy in my life

If I did not call your name desperately in my dream again,

and get awakened stunningly

Maybe, our love would turn out to be a perpetual secret



Bathing in my endless miss and prayers for you

I’m feeling happy all the time

Have been waiting till now, I have not the slightest cue

What the result might be

Or maybe, I did not even turn over the result.



I have been expecting

That I can tell you in the pose of waiting

That my love to you is authentic

It can be challenged by time and space.



All the plots we mutually shared

Become crystal-clear

Become instantly touchable,

Though they are actually thousands of miles away

I am wondering

Whether the longer I cover my love, the stronger it will become.

The days you were not with me

My miss was crazily growing like weeds



Maybe I am reluctant to lose any possibility of staying with you

And reluctant to witness my carved miss and awaiting covered with dust as time streaming by.

I free myself by self-encouraging.



I do not believe

It is a momentary matter from physical distance to mental distance.

I do not believe

Our love is so vulnerable after being tortured by time

I do not believe

Silent awaiting would turn out to be unavailing.


If sowing can always open arms to reaping

Then I suspect whether I have ever sowed

Or I have been too frugal.

I have to wait silently

I suspect whether testing my confidence and deeds stemming from love


Rendered me lose the opportunity.

Wish you an exquisite dream tonight

If you stretch your sweet smile in your dream

That is because of my wishes conveyed by moon and breeze from me.

Loving you is, after all, kind of slight sentiment.

I love the article - Belief

Belief

                                                        --Unknow

Your beliefs are very powerful and have the power to create or to destroy your life. 

In most cases, whatever you believe, is what you will become. 

If you believe that you are loser, that you never get a break in life, that you can’t accomplish anything, these things will be your reality. 

Believe that you are unlimited, that you can do anything you commit to doing, and when you do, your accomplishments will know no bounds.

You control your beliefs, and that is how you ultimately control of your life.
This is a very important point. 

So how do you develop beliefs that will empower you?

Many of our beliefs come from our environment, the world we live in on a daily basis. 

If your environment is limiting your beliefs, then work very hard on changing it. 

If you are constantly around people who are negative and limiting, find other people to hang out with. 

Get around positive, successful people.

Beliefs also come from past experiences. 

That is why it is so important to experience success on a regular basis. 

Set small, achievable goals, and then try your best to reach them. 

“I will finish this project by early afternoon.” 

“I will make six calls on the phone in the next hour.” 

“I will exercise for 20 minutes tonight.” 

When you start to experience success, then you start to believe in success, and that leads to more and bigger successes.

Beliefs come from knowledge.

The more you learn, the more things you will know to be possible. 

Always take advantage of opportunities to learn something new. It will bring new possibilities into your beliefs and your life.

Most importantly, you can develop new beliefs by setting and visualizing goals for your life. 

Define your goals clearly and with precision.

Then, in your mind, see yourself achieving them in all of their sensory details. 

Mentally live the experience, see the sights, hear the sounds, smell the aroma, feel the feelings. Your nurtured beliefs will lead you to their reality.

I love the article - The story of fish and water

The story of fish and water

-- Unknow

This is classic two white, almost everyone knows, but few people know the entire story. Fish from a young age is a naughty child, she did not like other children quiet. She likes to jumped in the water and up also. First a 50 - meter sprint and then slam the brakes to one or a other. Often at this time, water is always smiling children and watch the fish... Sometimes, the fish will encounter some frustrating thing, but at this time,the water gently always quietly listen to the children of the world - weary of the fish infants. During the day, the infants toss gently to the fish, she was more jump out of the water, look at the outside world, then she hope to catch. In the night, the water will become the cradle of the most warm, he always gently rocking,sing a lullaby for the fish to sleep. In the summer night, the fish will gradually grown up, she found that hearts are the same things she cared about - that is, water infants. One day, the fish finally had enough encourage to told the the woater, she likes him, the water became silence. " Why do not you speak" the fish asked, Water still in silence, gently said " No" is only the beginning. Mom told the fish, she can not love the water. This is the law of nature, just like the zebra can only love zebra, leopard can only love leopard; stripes can only love stripes, spots and only love spots, and the spots are not always love the stripes.


The fish do not understand that if the fringe really fell in love with the spots, birds and fish really fell in love with the fish really fell in love with water, then how should it. The fish don't understand, she swam in the water... long, the fish had borken the silence said:" you can not see the eyes of my tears, because I am in the water." Water said:" I can feel that your tears, because you are in my heart." Urgently fish said:" Why do not you love me? Water can only say: " I can not love you, I no fixed abode, often drifting around, you and I together will be very hard."


The fish said firmly:" I am not afraid, I should always be with you!" However, the water eventually can not escape the fate of drifting, he had an inflow of large rivers, the fish has been swimming to accompany him. They hug one another reefs and the risk. Flow through the political arena, jumping waterfalls and a stream flows in. Along the way, water children will be gently toss the fish, catch, and then toss, then catch,the warmer the water flow, the last stop was fast!


Very good, we can finally settle it. "Cheered the fish." "No," the water said, " too dangerous, by now have a way out, you quickly back YOU!" Water infants tense said." "Does not, in any case, I will never leave you." The fish said resolutely. In order to reduce the evaporation of water during the day, the fish quietly lying in the arms of water, not to make any movement. In the night, the stars all fell on the water, only started playing the fish. June, the fiery red sun exposure in the eater, although they do all the efforts, water or infants in the evaporation.The fish back gradually exposed surface of the water, the water stirred up efforts to infants waves, moist her back, she will not allow the sun burns. But this is more accelerated the evaporation of water. Finally, the last drop of water has left the fish infants. Cracking a fish lying on the land, and dieing. In the heart of the fish completed the beating last time, a drop of tears from the cheeks down. Suddenly, a lightning across the sky, in a heavy rain while, the fish has overcame to the embrace of water, water orphan of the fish, but the fish did not wake up, water with the feelings of grief and carrying fish like the wind, crying tears of cardiopulmonary. As no one can hear... The fish, struggling to run, the flow of a small tree hold, water penetrated the soil infants, the fish's body move into the soil. Water infants in front of the fish decomposed body gently said:" We do not have to racing current everywhere, and I found your home, from now on, you have me, and I have you..." Do not know many years after, growing  up at the tree tops on the tender green sprout in a drop - top, the sun glittering lights up, it is the fish shed tears......

The fish say: you are beautiful, I think I like you.

Water say: a fool, that is just what affection just.

The fish say: really, I don't cheat you.

Water say: I don't believe in love at first sight.

Days passed, and fish said to water feelings will increasingly article.

The fish say: I like to be with you.

Water say: that is because you already adapted to me.

The fish say: I like your taste.

Water say: that's because you have already become accustomed to my existence.

A few days later, water will continue to fly.

The fish say: I already can not get aways from you.

Water say: a few days you will forget me.

Fish say: No, I am not in love with and besides you.

Water say: That is because you have not met except me.

The fish say: You are all to me.

Water say: you're not the only one.

The fish say: what are you looking for?

Water say: only the sea warm bosom is my only.

The fish say: can not you stay for me?

Water say: no, once stop, I because thirsts, will never be able to see the appearance of the sea.

Fish say: That we can and frame in flooding?

The water said that, you can never overtake my steps.

The fish says: You can get me to make a little waiting?

Water say: I only like flowing water.

The fish say: Anyway, I will accompany you swam to the sea.

Water say: Don't be silly, you are just a freshwater fish.

The fish say: I don't want you to a personal face waves.

Water say: I will not therefore grateful to you.

The fish say: I don't want to see you gratitude,I just want to stay with you.

Water say: You Know I don't love you.

The fish say: But you can not deprive I love you right.

Water say: you this would only hurt yourself.

Water and fish after a river, fish only half-life.

The fish say: I don't know how far can accompany you.

The water said that, go back, so of the day is not suitable for you.

The fish say: No, even go to the final seconds, I will not give up.

The water said that, you silly get lost themselves.

Fish say: That you can try to accept a fool love?

Water say: You know my heart had long been sea occupied.

The fish say: Why? You can not try to love me?

Water say: I only believe the sea is my only.

Fish and water passes through a great river, fish life only quarter.

The fish say: If one day I gone, what would you do?

The water said that, I will always be sad, will be sorry.

Fish say: That if the sea gone?

Water say: I will heartbreak, also can follow his death.

The fish say: Are not our muscles also than just a mirage?

Water say: No affection get along just redundant memory.

The fish say: That sea? Are you sure he will fall in love with you?

Water say: He is my life's dream, I won't give up.

Fish in silence, to just sit quietly water covered the rest of the distance.

Finally, the arrived at the seaside. The sea water saw her, but she is not only the sea.

Yeah, the sea have largeness of mind, broad to can accommodate back the playing in his arm not focus on the presence of water.

Water is not willing to do the sea side one of numerous scarlet, she decide to leave.

The she remembered the fish, fish already at the last gasp.

The fish say: I saw the sea, he is so handsome, handsome, only he did not deserve you.

The water said that, but I think he confusing.

The fish say: Don't worry, someday, sea will find you and love you.

Water say: Maybe I really wrong.

The fish say: No, you are so love the sea.

Water say, Once, there is also a person so love me and I had ignored. You said, you say ah, fresh. Say you love me, say that you will and I will get together forever.

The fish say: I don't want to give you a case not promise.

Water say: Why can not you selfish?

The fish say: Don't do that, Love you in my rights and love me but not your obligation.

Water say: why do I always so selfish, so stubborn? Why I did not early in love with you?

The fish say: Don't say that, so, I will walk very upset.

Water say: Why are you always so good, good to let me feel ashamed.

The fish say: forget me, seek a person worthy of love by you.

Water say: Don't you most person worthy of love by me?

The fish say: Don't be silly, later days, I can not be miss you.

The fish say: Don't do this.

Water say: I really love you.

The fish say: I've shed tears, you see my tears of happiness? Oh, I forgot, because I am in the water.

Water say: Not! I feel, because now, you are in my heart.

Fish happily closed his eyes, in water bosom.

I love the article - The most distant way in the world

The Most Distant Way in The World
                    --by zhang xiao xian
The most distant way in the world
is not the way from birth to the end
It is when I sit near you
that you don't understand I love you


The most distant way in the world
is not when I stand in front of you
you're not sure I love you
It is when my love is bewildering the soul
but I can not speak it out


The most distant way in the world
is not that I can not say I love you
It is after looking into my heart
I can not change my love


The most distant way in the world
is not that I am loving you
It is in our love
We are keeping between the distance


The most distant way in the world
is not we love each other
but keep the distance across us
It is we know our love is breaking through the way
We deny the existence of it


So the most distant way in the world
is not in two distant trees
It is the same rooted branches
can not enjoy the co-existence


So the most distant way in the world
is not in the being separated branches
It is in the blinking stars
they can not burn the light


So the most distant way in the world
is not the burning stars
It is after the light
they can not be seen from afar


So the most distant way in the world
is not the light that is fading away
It is the coincidence of us
is not supposed for the love 


So the most distant way in the world
is the love between the fish and bird
One is flying in the sky
the other is looking upon into the sea

I love the article--< The Invitation >by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

         《The Invitation》

                                      --by Oriah Mountain Dreamer
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon.
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep
in the empty moments.

Happy life from feeling of heart - 3 To Axel

 

Did you know that an eagle knows when a storm is approaching long before it breaks?

The eagle will fly to some high spot and wait for the winds to come. When the storm hits, it sets its wings so that the wind will pick it up and lift it above the storm. While the storm rages below, the eagle is soaring above it.

The eagle does not escape the storm. It simply uses the storm to lift it higher. It rises on the winds that bring the storm.

When the storms of life come upon us—and all of us will experience them—we can rise above them by setting our belief that we can make it. The storms do not have to overcome us. We can allow our inner power to lift us above them.

We can enable ourselves to ride the winds of the storm that bring sickness, tragedy, failure and disappointment in our lives. We can soar above the storm.

Remember, it is not the burdens of life that weigh us down, it is how we handle them.